I’m not arguing about the fact that in times of grief it’s a way of expressing your moral and financial support (and if I were broke, I could definitely use the envelope). I’m not quite sure I get why (depending on how notorious your family is…) people you see every 2 year, total strangers, people you don’t like are queueing at the entrance of your home.
I wouldn’t even expect to see extended family and find boring to observe them while they go through the speech-envelope-kiss/shake hands process with their temporary I’m-sorry-for-your-loss expression. There are millions of people for whom we should have a temporary sad look. My point is these people come because it’s an “adidy” and that, is so devoid of meaning.
I would be glad to only have the people I love, family or not, close friend or 2-min phone calls from those who could not make it. We would eat tasty food, we would reminisce nice moments and maybe cry on each others shoulders. We wouldn’t have to sit all day waiting for acquaintances to show up.
I have issues dealing with the fact that some couples get married with 300 guests and know personally 20 % of them…I always wonder if they enjoy your presence or if you just came to enjoy the food and raucous music ? Inviting 300 guests is like saying “all 600 eyes on me”. I also find the wedding list inappropriate, isn’t that just a polite way of saying “Buy me this !”…how pathetic. But now that I think of it this way, sounds interesting…or what would also be interesting is not to spend all your money (or your parents’) on a party and ring and use it to buy what you want other people to buy !
Playing with the dead. I only have one thing to say: leave the dead alone and care for them when they are alive !!
I don’t always understand malagasy traditions and marriage. I don’t beg to go to these sort of events, but will go – after a lot of complaining – for people I care for (ain’t that nice ?! ). I just hope one day it will be the other way around.
FYI: if there is chocolate cake and if I don’t have to dress up all fancy, you can count on me. Oh and I like custard with my cake ! 🙂
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